An oportunity

An opportunity is not a door that one opens but a door another opens for you. The receiver's responsibility is to pray to see the open door and to be prepared to walk through it.God designed it this way to build humility in the heart of the one who opens the door for another and the one who recognizes the act of God's Grace and Mercy by accepting the opportunity.

Practice Love

We can only remember what we practice. What we practice is who we become. Practice love in order to become love.

Maturity in a relationship

We develop through four phases in a relationship. In the first phase, we focus on getting what we want from the relationship; we consume energy. In the second phase, we discover what we need to commit to the relationship in order to make it grow. In the third phase we learn to sacrifice the ego in order to serve the relationship; we give energy. In the fourth phase, we become love.

Self perception in relationships

A point of contention develops in a relationship when one fails to identify with another. Trying to change another to suit one's self perception of whom they are or ought to be creates conflict of personalities.

Awakening

Life is a journey of awakening that takes one through four phases. First, one awakens to self; understanding one's self in relation to others. Secondly, one awakens to others; understanding others in relation to one's self. Thirdly, one awakens to God; understanding love and fourthly, one awakens to eternal life, becoming love. Each one is experiencing a different stage of evolution. Others are still asleep.

Purpose of relationships

We do not enter relationships to complete each other, but to support one another to develop into wholesome individuals; completely connected to God. Only One who is Holy will make one whole and through God, we become connected.

Responsibility in a relationship

Taking responsibility for one's actions gives one the courage to change. Blaming others will make one helpless.

A functional relationship

The right attitude one ought to carry into a relationship is to find what one can bring into a relationship and not what one can get out of it. With the latter, one holds another hostage to personal expectations and results in holding disappointment in another. The only disappointment one will experience with the first attitude is in one's self; for failing to give more than one could have.

Joy in a relationship

The key to filling your heart with joy is to find it in each moment. Joy comes with what you know as the unknown creates anxiety. In a sorrowful time,joy in knowing that it will come to pass. In better times, joy is in knowing that you have captured a beautiful moment in time.

What is missing in our relationships

I have a keen interest in this subject and I wonder how many of you have asked the same question. I have a spiritual philosophy and would like your take on it. I have included some questions for self reflection and to get the conversation going.


We interact with each other and the things around us but how many of these relationships build us?

PURPOSE OF THIS DISCUSSION: TO BUILD CHARACTER AND STRENGTHEN OUR RELATIONSHIPS

“LET’S TALK!”

The PROBLEM in our relationships:

WE DO NOT HAVE A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD (we do not know how to relate to God)
We restrict ourselves from gaining access to an infinite source of energy.
1. What is your definition of a relationship with God?
2. What challenges do you face in your relationship with God?


The SOLUTION to our relationships:

LEARNING TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD FIRST BEFORE WE CAN SUCCEED WITH OTHERS (reducing our ego)
Each one needs to be connected to an infinite source of energy.
3. How do you play your part in building a relationship with God?
4. What challenges do you face in building this relationship?


The personal EFFECT of having a relationship with God first

BUILDING CHARACTER, (we service the needs in our relationships in place of our ego /we follow the Word of God instead of our ego.)
When each one is connected to an infinite source of energy, we will stop consuming each other’s energy and learn to give to each other.
5 How do you build character?
6. What personal challenges do you experience in completing a given task?


The EFFECT building character has on our relationships:

STRENGTHENING RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS (developing sustainable relationships)
When we give service to our relationships, we maintain them.
7. How has your growth in character strengthened your relationships?
8. What challenges do you face in maintaining your relationships?

This discussion is also on Face book under the relationship forum.

Communication in a relationship

Communucation is more effective if we spend more time learning a new langauge so the we can understand another rather than trying to teach another to speak our language so that they can hear us.

Focus

Living for today does not mean you do not think about tomorrow. It means what you focus on today should be determined by what you have planned for tomorrow.

Strengthening relationships

It is important to strengthen relationships because you are only as strong as the support that you give or recieve.

Building character

It is important to build character because it is the only thing that will stand when every thing else falls away.

Conflict in a relationship

Conflict is part of a developing relationship. A relationship survives conflict when each one steps back (in order to gain a full perspective of the pending need) without stepping out (and missing another opportunity reconnect).

Respect in a relationship

The respect that one gives to another indicates the value one places over another life.

Giving in a relationship

To give freely is to give with an open heart. A heart that gives without the reservation does not count what is gained by another as a loss to one's self.

A greater love

The love of God is a greater love than the love that one holds for the self.
It ignites the soul to see beyond one's self.
It is a love that seeks to give freely.
And to take only what is freely given.

Giving in a relationship

There is no joy that supersedes that of giving for love's sake because there is a healing of one's soul as one gives...

Wholesome relationship

You need to be comfortable with who you are and where you are as an individual in order to build a wholesome relationship with another i.e. a relationship where your heart is fully open to give and recieve energy.

Healthy relationship

A healthy relationship is not defined by the number of problems that it does not have but by the number of problems it evolves through. A relationship that evolves gives energy to the ones who are engaged in it.

Character

The character you develop is the product of your thoughts in response to your circumstances. What you manifest in activity is a reflection of the state of your mind.

What is a relationship?

A relationship is not an event but a process. It is a process of developing trust. Trust is energy that develops between individuals who share information in solving a given problem. Trust is established only when each one works to give confidence to another in fufilling the need given to solve the problem. When one gives this energy to another and another is willing to do the same, then a relationship exists. If at any time information is not shared or is inaccurate, trust is broken and a relationship fails.

Building a relationship

Contact: do not be afraid to reach out to another and another to reach out to you.

Connect: understand what another needs from you and communicate what you need.

Build character: do not be self serving, but give your spirit to serve.

Strengthen the relationship: develop trust.

What is character?

Character is the spirit that one gives to a relationship. It is energy that determines the strength of a relationship.

Love in a relationship

Time taken to love is time well spent.
Love reaches out to touch and embrace.
Love never withdraws, but always reaches out with hope.
Love is always seeking to give one's time,
Time to listen, time to see, time to speak, and time to understand.
To love is to make one's time available to another,
Time given to love is never lost.
Time taken to love is time well spent,
Giving time to love is the only act that is worthwhile.

Confidence in a relationship

Confidence comes with love. In giving love you give confidence, in recieving love you gain confidence.